The Value of Family
Values
Capital is the prominent feature of Capitalism. It is a system and
society that places an abnormal emphasis on generating wealth. Economics, in
a narrow sense, underpins all life's affairs. Men and women are seen merely
as entities that contribute to the economy. Therefore women as mothers are
not valued. Homemaking is an unpaid, labour intensive, strain on the
economy. It has no direct bearing on the GDP. Therefore the die of feminism
was caste in an emotion of disenfranchisement in a cash driven society.
Issues related to working women have been milestones en route to the
feminists liberation of women.
The value of motherhood in Islam
The whole question of womens liberation in the West highlights the need
for clearly defined roles in society for both genders. As people, we have a
purpose. As people, we are here to serve Allah (swt). This involves adhering
to the job description which Allah (swt) has written for us. Defaulting on
this contract will lead to despair in this life and in the next. With our
eyes firmly focused on the hereafter we try to understand the position of
genders in society.
Motherhood in Islam is highly honoured. This honour is not assessed
qualitatively nor quantitatively in economic terms. For example in 1993, the
average British housewifes work was valued at 369 per week (Daily Express).
This honour is not assessed in dollars or pounds sterling, rather on what
honour Allah (swt) has assigned to it. Allah (swt) has elevated the status
of parenting in the Quran. From the Sunnah it is seen that motherhood in
particular has been singled out. Allah (swt) revealed,
Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him, and that you be
kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in your life,
say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in
terms of honour. [Quran 17:23]
Abu Hurairah related that a man came to the Prophet (saw) and asked, Oh
Rasool Allah, which of all the people is best entitled to kind treatment and
good companionship from me? He (saw) answered, Your mother. The man asked,
Then who? He (saw) said, Your mother. And after her? He replied, Your
mother. And after her? He replied, Your father.
Anas narrated the Prophet (saw) said,
when the labour pains come none
in heaven or earth knows what is concealed in her womb to soothe her. And
when she delivers, not a mouthful of milk flows from her and not an instance
of childs suck, but that she receives, for every mouthful and every suck,
the reward of one good deed. And if she is kept awake by the child at night,
she receives the reward of one who frees seventy slaves for the sake of
Allah.
Economic evaluation of gender role in the West
Motherhood was not given the same position in the West. Capitalism
changed many aspects of natural family structures. This effected the raising
of children, responsibilities of parents and care of the elderly.
Pre-industrial British economy was based on agricultural goods, craft
production etc. This was organised through households. The household
members, male, female, young and old all contributed. Industrialisation
shifted production from the cottage to factories, shops and offices. Thus
the home became re-defined as the place that is not work. Women become
relegated to the keepers of the home.
In the Twentieth Century the only socially recognised work is that which
is paid with tax contributions in big businesses, on full time permanent
contracts. Those included in this narrow description are dignified and
honoured. Thus those working in non conventional jobs or unwaged are
considered inferior. So collecting fire wood and selling it on a street
corner without a peddlers licence and P45 tax certificate would be
considered wrong and undignified. The lauding of the stereotypical working
man only served to demean motherhood and homemaking.
The sexual revolution
The 1960s saw dramatic changes sweep the US. In this respect America
became the trend setter for the rest of the Western World. Young people,
college students in particular, rebelled against what they viewed as the
repressed, conformist society of their parents. They advocated a sexual
revolution, aided by reduced government censorship, the birth control pill
and later the legalisation of abortion. Unrestrained individualism played
havoc with family values. People began marrying later and having fewer
children. The divorce rate accelerated to the point that the number of
divorces per year was roughly half the number of marriages. The number of
abortions rose, as did the illegitimacy rate.
Meanwhile, the economic conditions underlying
women's status were
changing. Women had fewer children and mod cons freed them from labour
intensive chores formerly associated with housekeeping. The growth of the
service sector after the War helped create new types of jobs that could be
done as well by women as by men. In Britain almost 90 per cent of new jobs
created since 1970 have gone to women (Cohan and Borrill, 1993).
It wasnt until women achieved economic clout by entering the workplace
that the feminist movement really took off. Various rights were granted by
the system only after women had established themselves as major contributors
to the economy. These rights were not fought for or demanded. They were
given by the male dominated misogynist Western society merely to appease and
pacify women. This can be contrasted with Islam in which the rights for both
men and women are previously prescribed by Allah. Our rights are not
affected by our economic status. Women in Islam were allowed to own
property, vote for a Khalif, trade in the markets and even employ men
hundreds of years before these things were dreamt of in the West.
Family values undervalued in the West
Many factors lead to the current Western attitude to motherhood, which is
at odds with human nature. Children are brought up by strangers. A mother
would work full time, and parent part time. She would give up three quarters
of her wages, for child care, to pay strangers to bring up her children.
These are the so called super mums. They are not super at all and can lay
claim to being mums only in the physiological sense. They con themselves
about a thing called quality time. Quality time being a condensed sound bite
of parent-child interaction at the end of the day when the parent gets home
from work. The social problems that these situations produce are immense.
Even within the West many acknowledge that this is a problem that has to
be addressed. The spate of school shootings (Kentucky, Oregon, Arkansas and
Mississippi) prompted academics, criminologists, law enforcers and parents,
in July 1998, to cite the lack of adult supervision in children's lives as a
factor contributing to this problem. In the UK, the Social Exclusion Unit
was set up in December 1997 to advise the government on such issues as
lawlessness, drugs and helplessness etc. The experts have been brought in to
find answers to questions that to most rational people are patently obvious.
Alternatively motherhood can be put into animated suspension until; a
promotion is achieved, a PhD obtained or a partnership gained. This can be
achieved by reversible chemical sterilisation in the form of a pill or by
the many innovative means that modern science has thrown up.
Egg freezing is a service enabling women to pursue careers without having
to sacrifice their natural craving for children. The Independent quoted
Lucy, 33, Writer: I don't know whether or not I want children in the long-term.I
do resent nature for this .I also think that a lot of women who really want
children start to panic and compromise enormously in terms of their
partner .So, yes if I had the opportunity to freeze my eggs I definitely would
do so.I just would love to
be able to feel the way that men feel.
Islam evaluates on other than economic terms
Men and women are both the creations of Allah (swt) and in this respect
are absolutely equal in status,
And their Lord has accepted of them and answered them, never will I
let to be lost the work of any of you be you male or female, you proceed one
from another. [ 3:195]
Allah (swt) created man and woman with a different fitra (nature) which
gives them different roles to play. There are some attributes that are
exclusive to men and some that are exclusive to women. Women bear children
and wet-nurse babies. Men are physically stronger and are more capable in
certain respects. The normal natural differences between men and women are
explicitly and implicitly acknowledged in Islam, without interpreting them
as one being better than the other. In contrast to Islam, Plato stated,
There is no occupation concerned with the management of social affairs which
belongs to women or to men, as such and every occupation is open to both.
(The Republic). This epitomises the Greeks lack of comprehension of basic
reality. This divorce from reality is something that The West willingly
bought into and even cherish as their own heritage.
In Islam neither gender is seen as merely an economic entity. The roles
and position of the genders are fully compatible with the realities of human
nature. Moreover our adherence to these roles result in a balanced society
in this world and our success in the next. The set up of society on the
Islamic model creates within it the unquestionable checks and preventative
measures against many societal problems. Western governments assign ever
growing proportions of their budgets for solving these types of problems.